Ep 127: Two Ways to Control Anger

Methods for Controlling Emotions

Summary

Looking at our emotions to control and manage a habit we want to change.
Allowing and being ok with all our emotions, like anger, we gain control by acceptance.
However, habitually processing emotions like anger doesn’t get at the reason why we’re angry most of the time.
When you accept anger but continue to yell, it’s because we haven’t looked at the root cause of our anger.
Our anger comes from how we think habitually about our situation. Not someone’s behaviours, rather what we believe about them.
We have beliefs about how someone else “should” think, feel and act and those “should” statements are sneaky.
When we can look at a few key “shoulds” we have for others we can begin to shift that perspective to reduce our habitual anger.
Example: “My kids should have table manners.” to “This is an opportunity to guide them to the table manners I would like them to learn.”