Tara Rama

The Cycle of Yelling and Anger

Summary

• There is a physical cycle to break.
• Knowing the physical cycle will bring awareness to breaking it for good.
• Cycles are based on how we learned to handle our emotions.
• The cycle in the episode is about breaking the pattern of yelling and patterns in relationships.
• The most common cycle to break is Anger-Guilt cycle.
• Anger: “I’ve been wronged” Guilt: “I’ve done wrong”.
• The cycle involves flip-flopping between these two emotions unconsciously.
• Anger is fast, Guilt is slow. Anger is a survival emotion and can feel out of control.
• We break the cycle when we become conscious of our emotions enough to choose a course of action.
• To change behaviours, like yelling, start with the slow emotion of guilt/shame. There you can get space to control the anger.