Is Negative Reinforcement Necessary?
Summary
- We like our friends, we like their social media posts, but do we like ourselves?
- Usually a cranky, grumpy person who doesn’t like themselves.
- What’s the reason you have for disliking yourself?
- Often, we believe that negative reinforcement is necessary to achieve something (weight loss, stop yelling, better person).
- It works for the short-term but leads to burn-out (burn out looks different – unhealthy relationships/no relationships, financial issues, health issues).
- This belief is often seen as a fact – look at what you’re doing wrong to get better.
- Why can’t you like yourself and go after what you want?
- You can like yourself and go after what you want (stop yelling, the job, the relationship).
- We often think that when we achieve something we’ll like ourselves but is this true?
- Look at your current achievements (education, family, money, career) – do you like yourself more now?
- In fact, liking yourself is a necessity for long lasting change.
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Tara Rama 