What Moms Teach Us
Summary
- Your first mother teaches you first. Whether you knew her or not.
- We learn about relationships the moment we exit the womb.
- If we find ourselves in relationship patterns that we don’t want, we need to go back to our first mother.
- Healing our first relationship is a springboard to healing the rest (i.e. father, in-laws, spouse, etc.). It’s a springboard to healing the past.
- The first step is to write out all the judgements you have of your first mother; take your time and fill up pages of it.
- Look at the list (when you’re in an objective place) and notice if some of these judgement are applicable to yourself.
- This is not an exercise to use to beat yourself up; rather to gain understanding of your relationship patterns.
- The second step is to write out all the ways you wanted your first mother to show up; how did you want her to beahve?
- These become a list of expectations and this can also show you how you want to show up in your current relationships.
- As you continue to do this try gaining perspective with this information as patterns emerge.
- Repeat these exercises for other relationships.
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Tara Rama 