Where Anger and Aggression Intersect
Summary
- Often, complex emotions like Hate are a combination of multiples emotions.
- Hate is anger (focus) and aggression (and in this case aggression means imposing your own will on someone else).
- Desperation is a combination of desire and urgency.
- Hate is part of the emotional landscape of being human; culturally it is viewed as a very ‘bad’ emotion to have.
- Hate becomes a problem when we don’t deal with it and take action from this emotion:
- We connect the situation we don’t want to be in with another person – believing that this person is the key to getting what we want.
- Or we connect our circumstance to a group of people (misplaced). This occurs when hate is repressed.
- Hate when repressed hides ourselves from ourself. It’s the shadow part – the part we are unaware of.
- The object of our hate reveals to us what we want. They have something that we desire (and we don’t know about what it is until we look deeper into the emotion).
- Repressing hate in kids (i.e. “we don’t use hate in this household”) leads to kids not knowing themselves, finding out what it is they want in life.
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Tara Rama 