Ep 153: Co-parenting Differences

When the Other Parent Yells

Summary

Less exhaustion in co-parenting.
“What would someone with a full cup do when faced with an abusive and manipulative relationship? They would simply leave.”¹
When your co-parenting partner has behaviours (like yelling) or values that you don’t agree with, what do you do?
The short answer is you do NOTHING. But not to do nothing ALL THE TIME.
Seeing the relationships your child has with other adults as separate from the one with you is breaking the cycle (generational cycles)².
The most important thing to know when co-parenting is your hard limits (boundaries).
Set boundaries in alignment with your values.
The limit I share is here to inspire you to think about your limits when co-parenting.
My limit is that I step in with a situation between my child and the co-parent when physical safety is concerned or when words are exchanged that involves name-calling, character attacking.
When you set boundaries with another adult, you teach your children how to handle boundaries in their future relationships.
Be intentional about how you want to handle co-parenting and these are the type of boundaries children will learn.

Referenced:
¹Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families by John Friel & Linda Friel