Getting at the Guilt Once and For All
Summary
- The first step to stop yelling is to release the guilt that comes up after we yell.
- If you’re still stuck in guilt/shame, this episode will provide another viewpoint on yelling.
- ‘Is Yelling Bad?’ – what do you mean by the word, bad? What is bad?
- For me, if I continue to yell, my child will not speak to me when she’s an adult.
- The second question (provided by my child): What’s the worst thing a parent can do to a child?
- Usually the answer doesn’t involve yelling.
- Look at yelling in a molecular (objective) way. Look at different components of the yelling.
- Yelling is a decibel above conversational level (60 decibels).
- What are the words you say when you yell: “Put your shoes on now”
- Looking at what has happened in a molecular way (I said ‘put your shoes on now’ at 90 decibels).
- Viewing it in a broken down way can help move the guilt through your body.
Tara Rama 