Ep 149: When Kids Hit

An Alternative Way to View Your Child’s Hitting

Summary

I used to say “My child isn’t going to be the kid that hits.”
This episode is not for someone currently healing from trauma.
Redirection is often the most common advice and for me, it didn’t work.
Hitting in kids (toddlers) comes from a lack of control in their muscles (lack of control of their actions).
Emotions come out bigger in little kids because the emotions are moving through their body (it comes out through their limbs with hitting).
Kids come to their trusted loved ones come to them with big emotions (and it looks like hitting and kicking them).
If you experience flashbacks when your kids hit it signals there is still leftover trauma to process and resolve.
Letting your kids come to you with their anger demonstrates their trust in you.
Giving them a place for emotional safety allows them to process their emotions in a safe place. This allows them as they emotionally mature to see that anger can be allowed and processed safely.